In fiveyearsit wont matter if he wascute.
It wont matter if hewas well-dressed, if he said all the right terms, if he was funny or trendy or cool.
The paintings wont matter. Thelikes, the status, the #relationshipgoals achieved theylljust beripples on the surface ofa newfound depth.
There is so much relationship advice out there and Im simply one voice among millions, but if I could tell you one thing, dear daughter, its this 😛 TAGEND
MARRY THE MAN WHO STAYS.
Anybody can tell you youre pretty in yoga gasps and a messy bun.You require therarer kind; the kind whosticks through the messy of your soul .
Hes often overlooked, this man. You wont find a microphone in his hand or a stage beneath his feet. He may not lead the Bible survey or shareprofound insights into the Word. Instead, his hands do the work unnoticed, and he stands quietly in the background. He results by serving. But he lives profoundly.
If you move too fast you might miss him. If youre captivated by the spotlight you wont see him in the shadows. If youre looking for a form you might never notice heis there.
But he is.
Were trained to look for the movers and shakers, the leaders and the loud. We believe spiritual leadership means holding the microphone but its more about holding the fort. The man who stands on principle isnt on the way to anywhere else; hes neither moving nor shaking. He simply bides .
We think of faithfulness as something practised once were married, but it doesnt merely happen when the rings slip on our hands. Its a discipline of the heart that begins early. Its the choice to stick with it when things get tough, when youre overlooked, when your work is ignored and youre left standing there. Its choosing to stay when you have every reason to leave.
The man who stays faithful when no one is looking in his task, in his ministry, in his life is the man who stays with you when marriage gets hard. This human doesnt run away from a fight , not so he can win it but so he can win back your trust. He stays to the end because he values a happy objective. His glory isnt in applause and popularity but in the quiet assurance ofhis faithful love.
Hes the man who chooses love when love means being patient and kind when you deserve neither patience nor kindness.
He loves because Christ first loved him.
Paul warned against being unequally yoked with unbelievers, an admonition many Christian daughters question in the throes of attraction. But if the working group ever was reason to follow Pauls command, it is inthe necessity of faithfulness. Many a man can say he loves you. Many can win and woo with words. And even more can persuade you that faith is of little outcome; that love can make up the difference.
But love and faith are one and the same. They cannot exist apart from one another.
Your faithful love, O Lord, extends to the heavens.( Psalm 36:5)
Staying love isnt built on emotion. Sometimes it simply exists. But deep beneath its quiet existence burns an unquenchable fire fueled by faithfulness. As we opt love in unlovely moments the fire burns brighter and hotter. The heat of itwarmsthe heart that couldotherwise grow cold. Lasting love is built on the staying power of faithfulness.
It seems too simple, choosing to stay. It seems easy, but its so incredibly hard . Faithfulness is the very essence of God Himself, who strives with the sinner and stays with the broken even when it hurts. Even when it costs Him everything.
Dont look for a man tospiritually lead you; you need a man spiritually led by God, whose faithfulness is the foundation of every true love. The man led by God is led by Gods love. Gods love is unfailing. Gods love is steadfast. Gods love bides .
So marry the man whose love is like Divinities: faithful, eternal, and steadfast. This various kinds of love sticks through the more difficult moments and buoys you through every storm. Its a slow love, mundane in its dailyness. But its the kind of love you wake up to every morning because you can trust that it will still be there.
** This post originally appeared on PhyliciaDelta.com .