“We live in a society that places so much attention on a womans wants, but the fact is we all as humen have them. Heres my take.”
By Brie Gowen
Sometimes my husband leaves his dinner plate laying on the kitchen counter full of discarded food just a few steps shy of the garbage or kitchen sink, but other times he cleans the entire kitchen on a whim. Sometimes I act like a patient, sane female, but other hours I rant crazily like an escaped patient from an insane asylum. I leave my Diet Coke cans in all the regions of the counter, but I make a mean pot roasted. He plucks his hair and leaves them in the sink , but he also constructs me feel like the sexiest woman on planet earth. We argue from time to time, but we also make up like its going out of style. We disagree, but we come together on the important issues for our household. My spouse seldom concedes first in the hot of a marital battle, yet we both in the end know how to acknowledge when were wrong. Thats kinda how this whole thing works.
I realize that Im not a perfect wife, and I dont even want my spouse to feign that I am. So although he guess Im pretty darn swell, I know I can be a handful to live with. The thing is, about certain issues, so is he. Were fallible, imperfect people who happen to see the best in one another, but love each other enough that we hold one another accountable when its necessitated. I dont need my husband coddling me, handling me, or even catering to me to try and build this false sense of bliss in our wedding. I want a real human who brings real conversations and problems to the table, and while I certainly appreciate his kind and compassionate treatment of me, I dont want him bearing the burden of a completely contented wedding on his own.
Happy wife, happy life. Ive heard the saying before. And though it may not be what I presume is intended, I hear, marital happiness is dependent on the spouse keeping his wifes wants gratified. Be it physical, emotional, financial, or spiritual, I do agree that as head of the home a husband is required to lead and love his wife. I merely dont suppose the build or violate should fall on his shoulders alone. We live in national societies that places so much attention on a womans wants, but the facts of the case is we all as humans have them. Heres my take.
I dont think its fair to place the weight of a relationships success more heavily on the shoulders of one spouse over the other, because a marriage is a partnership. In my marriage my husband does everything in his power to induce me feel loved, special, and happy. I in turn do the same. Thats only right. Each spouse has specific needs, specific strengths, and also specific flaws. We each have our areas where we fall short, but also those areas where we excel. Together, the sum portions make up something fairly darn spectacular, and you dont merely end up with a happy wife. You also have a happy spouse, and this in turn leads to a happy wedding. I merely dont believe Id be a happy spouse if my husbands happiness wasnt a key issue too.
Ecclesiastes 4:10 -1 2
10 If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real difficulty. 11 Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? 12 A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and subdue. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily violated .
Taking a Christ-centered stance on marriage causes each partner to not look at themselves, but to look at the other. In Ephesians it devotes roles not just for the spouse, but also not just for the spouse. Gods word will tell you that each partner must serve one another in love. Marital bliss isnt dependent on the action of one, and the happiness of a wedding doesnt rest on anyones sole shoulders. It takes two.
So perhaps it should be happy spouse, happy house. In this sense where one is weak, the other is strong. Both partners come together, they pick up the slack, they place themselves in the shoes of their development partners, they offer love, and most importantly extend grace. Everyone is happy. And thats what its all about.