No matter how much chemistry you have together , no matter how sweet she can be and no matter how attracted to her you may be, if you ignore these warning signs, youre likely destined for a miserable marriage.
By Dave Willis
In the years that my spouse Ashley have been working with married couples and researching the factors that make a marriage run, weve discovered that one of the best ways to have a strong marriage is to construct the right decisions BEFORE you say I do. Recently, I wrote a article that went viral on the 7 signs you are able to NOT marry him which started a lot of dialogues about what to look for in a potential husband.
As a follow up that popular post, Im addressing the things you should be looking for( and the warning signals that indicate serious issues) when looking for a potential wife. If you are single, dating or engaged , please consider both of these lists carefully before committing to matrimony. If you have children , please raise your sons and daughters to personify these values and avoid these common mistakes so that they can someday have a strong wedding and a healthy life.
If you are dating a woman who is doing any of the seven things on such lists, I would strongly caution you against seeking wedding unless shes willing to change these dangerous behaviors and postures. No matter how much chemistry you have together , no matter how sweet she can be and no matter how attracted to her you may be, if you ignore these warning signs, youre likely destined for a miserable marriage.
7 signs you are able to NOT marry her ( in no particular order)
1. She flirts with guys( other than you) to get attention or favors .
Flirtation can seem harmless and fun, but if youre in a committed relationship with a woman and she continues to flirt with other guys, its a huge warning sign. Its revealing a flaw in her character, and you need to take notice. Talk about it and express your concerns. If shes receptive, thats a positive sign. If she defiantly takes your concerns as you trying to be controlling, then its likely time to break up.
2. She dresses provocatively and/ or uses her sexuality to get attention from humen .
This is an extension of the first item on the list about flirting, but this takes it to a new level. If a woman doesnt value modesty, and instead, permits herself to be objectified by humen for the purposes of attention, kudo or preferential treatment, do NOT marry her. Shes not acting like a potential spouse; shes acting like somebodys potential mistress.
3. She does not live within her financial means and/ or expects other people to finance her preferred lifestyle .
If shes is always operating up credit card debt or always expecting other people to pick up the bill while indicating little or no personal responsibility, then you should not marry her. Im not saying chivalry should be dead and a human shouldnt pay for a lady when youre out on dates. Im talking about a lifestyle and a mindset that is reckless, selfish and materialistic. Financial stress is one of the main causes of divorce and if she has not interest in managing resources responsibly when youre dating, youre in a for a world of fiscal stress after youre married.
4. She doesnt support your dreams .
This was one on the guys listing too. If you are dating or engaged to some who doesnt subsistence and celebrate your dreamings and objectives, dont marry them! Theyre demonstrating a lot of selfishness although we are depicting a disregard for you. Marry someone who is your biggest encourager; not your biggest critic. Marry someone who will construct you dream ever bigger dreams; not someone who undermines your dreams.
5. She tries to isolate you from the people who care about you .
Any dating relationship( and wedding) will have important hours of exclusivity where the two of you are together more often than you are with everyone else, BUT if she is always trying to pull you away from their own families, friends and loved ones, its disclosing something dangerous. If she doesnt value the people who value you, then shes trying to create a future with you where those loved ones wont be part of the picture.
6. She loves drama .
If you are with someone who loves drama then RUN! Seriously. If shes always gossiping or ventilating about something on social media or by hyper emotional to get her way, shes not ready for marriage . Dont try to justify it and dont presume she will outgrow it. Just break up. Trust me.
7. She seems much more interested in having a great Wedding than in having a great MARRIAGE .
Its fine to dream about a wonderful wedding, BUT if she is preoccupied with the relevant recommendations of a perfect bridal and she seems to be giving little thought to the wedding that will follow, then shes go looking for a one-day experience; NOT a lifetime commitment.
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