Like most 26 -year-olds, Holly Butcher guessed she had her whole life ahead of her. She envisaged a future growing old with the love of their own lives, rocking little grandbabies on her lap, and proudly racking up wrinkles marked by the laugh lines of a life well-lived.
That was, until she got diagnosed with terminal cancer that would tragically take their own lives just one short year later.
The once vibrant and strong young woman speedily turned frail and weak, reminding her of her mortality at a rapidly increasing velocity. With a body promptly failing her to do much else, Holly was left with nothing but time to think on her hands–about the meaning of life; the things that matter, and the things that merely don’t.
Consisting of mostly supposes she collected in the middle of the night, Holly decided to leave behind a little life advice for the land of the living, and it’s chock-full of paradigm-shifting view that every human being needs to hear.
Holly posted her “Note before I die” to Facebook on January 3rd, and passed away less than 24 hours later.
Now, her powerful message is taking the Internet by storm, encouraging each of us to love a little better, be kinder to ourselves, and more was aware of others–all while diving headfirst into the beauty this life has to offer and cutting out the frivolous’ crap’ that weighs us down.
Read her powerful post below:
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“A bit of life advice from Hol 😛 TAGEND
It’s a strange thing to realise and accept your mortality at 26 years young. It’s just one of those things you ignore. The days tick by and you only expect they will keep on coming; Until the unexpected happens. I always imagined myself growing old, wrinkled and grey- most likely caused by the beautiful household( lots of kiddies) I schemed on building with the love of my life. I want that so bad it hurts.”
“That’s the thing about life; It is fragile, precious and unpredictable and each day is a gift , not a given right.
I’m 27 now. I don’t want to go. I love my life. I am happy .. I owe that to my loved ones. But the control is out of my hands.
I haven’t started this’ note before I die’ so that demise is dreaded- I like the fact that we are mostly ignorant to it’s inevitability .. Except when I want to talk about it and it is treated like a’ taboo’ topic that will never happen to any of us .. That’s been a bit tough. I simply want people to stop worrying so much about the small, meaningless emphasizes in life and try to remember that we all have the same fate after everything there is so do what you can to make your time feel worthy and great, minus the bullsh* t.
I have fallen lots of my thoughts below as I have had a lot of time to meditate life these last few months. Of course it’s the middle of the night when these random things pop in my head most!
Those days you are whinging about ridiculous things( something I have noticed so much these past few months ), just think about someone who is really facing a problem. Be grateful for your minor issue and get over it. It’s okay to be recognised that something is annoying but try not to carry on about it and negatively consequence other people’s days.
Once you do that, get out there and take a freaking big breath of that fresh Aussie air deep in your lungs, look at how blue the sky is and how green the trees are; It is so beautiful. Think how luck you are to be able to do simply that- breathe.”
“You might have got caught in bad traffic today, or had a bad sleep because your beautiful newborns kept you awake, or your hairdresser cut your hair too short. Your new fake fingernails might have got a chip, your boobs are too small, or you have cellulite on your arse and your belly is wobbling.
Let all that[ stuff] go .. I swear you will not be thinking of those things when it is your turn to go. It is all SO insignificant when you look at life as a whole. I’m watching my body waste away right before my eyes with nothing I can do about it and all I wish for now is that I could have just one more Birthday or Christmas with my family, or simply one more day with my partner and dog. Just one more.”
“I hear people complaining about how terrible work is or about how hard it is to exert- Be grateful you are physically able to. Work and exercise may seem like such trivial things … until your body doesn’t allow you to do either of them.
I tried to live a healthy life, in fact, that was probably my major passion. Appreciate your good health and functioning body- even if it isn’t your ideal sizing. Look after it and embrace how amazing it is. Move it and nourish it with fresh food. Don’t obsess over it.
Remember there are more aspects to good health than the physical body.. work just as hard on seeing your mental, emotional and spiritual happiness too. That route you might realise just how insignificant and unimportant having this stupidly portrayed perfect social media body really is .. While on this topic, delete any account that pops up on your news feeds that gives you any sense of feeling[ like crap] about yourself. Friend or not .. Be ruthless for your own well-being.
Be grateful for each day you don’t have pain and even the days where you are unwell with man influenza, a sore back or a sprained ankle, accept it is[ crap] but be thankful it isn’t life threatening and will go away.”
“Whinge less, people! .. And help each other more.
Give, devote, dedicate. It is true that you gain more happiness doing things for others than doing them for yourself. I wish I did this more. Since I have been sick, I have met the most unbelievably devoting and kind people and been the receiver of the most thoughtful and loving words and support from my family, friends and strangers; More than I could I ever give in return. I will never forget this and will be forever grateful to all of these people.
It is a weird thing having money to spend at the end .. when you’re dying. It’s not a period you go out and buy material things that you usually would, like a new dress. It induces you think how silly it is that we think it is worth spending so much fund on new clothes and’ things’ in our lives.
Buy your friend something kind instead of another dress, beauty product or jewellery for that next wedding. 1. No-one cares if you wear the same thing twice 2. It feels good. Take them out for a snack, or better yet, cook them a meal. Shout their coffee. Give/ buy them a plant, a massage or a candle and tell them you love them when you give it to them.”
“Value other people’s period. Don’t keep them waiting because you are[ bad] at being on time. Get ready earlier if you are one of those people and appreciate that your friends want to share their period with you , not sit by themselves, waiting on a mate. You will gain respect too! Amen sister.
This year, our family agreed to do no presents and despite the tree looking rather sad and empty( I nearly cracked Christmas Eve !), it was so nice because people didn’t have the pressure of shopping and the effort went into writing a nice card for each other. Plus imagine my family trying to buy me a present knowing they would probably end up with it themselves .. strange! It might seem lame but those cards entail more to me than any impulse buy could. Mind you, it was also easier to do in our home because we had no little kiddies there. Anyway, moral of the story- presents are not needed for a meaningful Christmas. Moving on.
Use your fund on experiences .. Or at least don’t miss out on experiences because you spent all your fund on material[ crap ].
Put in the effort to do that day trip to the beach you maintain putting off. Dip your feet in the water and dig your toes in the sand. Wet your confronted with salt water.”
“Get amongst nature.
Try merely enjoying and being in moments rather than capturing them through the screen of your telephone. Life isn’t meant to be lived through a screen nor is it about get the perfect photo .. enjoy the bloody moment, people! Stop trying to capture it for everyone else.
Random rhetorical question. Are those several hours you expend doing your hair and make up each day or got to go for one night really worth it? I’ve never understood this about females .
Get up early sometimes and listen to the birds while you watch the beautiful colours the sunlight makes as it rises.
Listen to music .. really listen. Music is therapy. Old is best.
Cuddle your puppy. Far out, I will miss that.
Talk to your friends. Set down your telephone. Are they doing okay? ”
“Travel if it’s your desire, don’t if it’s not.
Work to live, don’t live to work.
Seriously, do what attains your heart feel happy.
Eat the cake. Zero guilt.
Say no to things you really don’t want to do.
Don’t feel pressured to do what other people might think is a fulfilling life .. you might want a mediocre life and that is so okay.
Tell your loved ones you love them every time you get the opportunity and love them with everything you have.
Also, remember if something is making you miserable, you do have the power to change it- in work or love or whatever it may be. Have the intestines to change. You don’t know how much hour you’ve got on this ground so don’t trash it being miserable. I know that is said all the time but it couldn’t be more true.
Anyway, that’s just this one young gals life advice. Take it or leave it, I don’t mind! ”
“Oh and one last thing, if you can, do a good deed for humanity( and myself) and start regularly donating blood. It will construct you feel good with the added bonus of saving lives. I feel like it is something that is so overlooked considering every gift can save 3 lives! That is a massive impact each person can have and the process really is so simple.
Blood donation( more bags than I could keep up with counting) helped maintain me alive for an extra year- a year I will be forever grateful that I got to expend it here on Earth with my family, friends and dog. A year I had some of the greatest times of my life.
..’Til we meet again.
No matter who you are, our fate on earth is the equivalent. Death is inevitable, and our only true hope is infinity with our Heavenly Father. We’re in this together, so let’s take Holly’s advice to heart and live each day with love and intention.
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